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Here are some guidelines on how to control your emotions towards your better-half, friends, colleagues and all other people around you. The rules of practicing "a blessed attitude":
No.1 The 1st to get mad has the right to be mad. If he was the 1st, just keep silent for a moment.
No. 2 Noone gets into a fight alone. If you just kept silent, then the one whose provoking a fight will soon stop.
No. 3 The person whose mad, is "deaf". Because when someone is mad, he listens to noone. So, don't try to explain and fight back. He won't understand you because his concern is all for himself.
No. 4 The person mad is "crazy". Pastor says, this is Biblical. Because the Lord said when He was crucified, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do" (Luke 23:34). Modern term for these kind of people are crazy. So you better not get angry so you won't be considered crazy too.
You should also know and realize that the person who make your day bad are jewels , because you need them for you to mature. God will not take these people away; it's for you to take away your bad feelings towards them.
You'll know that you have matured when you no longer get annoyed with these people because you have learned to accept them and to have more patience with them.
No. 5 Finally, the best part of this is to tell yourself that, because of this person, "I will grow mature," and because of his contribution to my maturity, GOD will take heed on him. For it is written, "Never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of GOD" (Romans 12:19).
Mutual respect, love, understanding, courtesy and a mutual consideration of each other's needs plus mutual tolerance are not only a must for marital and familial bliss but also very meritorious.
“Muslims have better morals, and the best of these are those who are best for their women." (Tirmidhi) A hadith has already been quoted which says that the food which one puts in his wife's mouth earns him merit. Another hadith goes a bit further and predicts merit even on the sexual act of a husband and a wife. Another hadith tells us that when a husband, upon returning home, looks at his wife with love and the wife returns his glance with love, Allah looks upon both of them with Mercy.
Husband and wife are always together and pass a large portion of their lives in each other's company. It is but natural for frictions to arise. If these normal misunderstandings and displeasures are allowed to degenerate into bitter quarrels and cruelty to each other, then not only are worldly pleasures destroyed but the Divine reward for mutual love is also lost.
The bible have formulated for us a perfect guideline for marital bliss; it can be summarized as follows: "Do not look at only those things which displease you; think too that the partner, who is displeasing you, has some good qualities as well. If you think of these good qualities, the good relationship with your spouse shall be restored". The Lord has said, “No believer should have total dislike of a believing woman because if he dislikes one thing, there would be some quality in her which he would surely like.”
If husband and wife follow this principle and live with mutual love and try their best to be good to each other, their marital life shall be enriched with happiness and they shall go on earning more and more merit and Divine rewards all their lives.
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life. (1 Peter 3:1-7)
1 - ICE KISS
Celebrate the first day of winter with an ice kiss. Put an ice cube in your mouth until your mouth becomes cold. Remove the cube, track down your love and plant a kiss that will send chills!
- 2 - ELECTRIC SHOCK KISS
The two of you shuffle your feet furiously on carpet. When you both have an electric charge, lean over and slowly aim for each other's lips. With your lips about one-half inch apart, move in even slower until a spark jumps between the two of you. Instantly after this happens, kiss one another...the please us the kiss right after the shock!
- 3 - CAMPING KISS
On a beautiful cool night, you and your love crawl into a sleeping bag outside. Cuddle and kiss.
- 4 - REWARD KISS
Next time your love performs some disliked home chore like cleaning the bathroom, mowing the lawn, or taking out the garbage, show your appreciation by tucking a candy kiss in a strategic location.
- 5 - POST-IT KISS
Use 3M Post-It notes to make a trail through your house that leads to your lips. Put a lipstick print or lip symbol on each note with an arrow pointing to the next note. You, of course, are at the end of the trail with a Post-It note over your lips that says, "LIFT FOR KISS"
- 6 - KISSING IN THE RAIN
The next time it rains, grab an umbrella, rain coats, and your love. Then go outside and kiss in the rain. If the spirit of the kiss moves you, remove the umbrella and kiss 'till the two of you are soaked.
- 7 - HERSHEY`S KISSES
Prepare a small bag of Hershey`s kisses and slip it into your love's purse, briefcase, or lunchbox. Attach a note that reads "SORRY, I CAN'T BE THERE IN PERSON, BUT THINK OF ME AND DO THE FOLLOWING: Close your eyes and place the candy between your lips. Drop the candy in your mouth and roll it on your tongue until it melts.
- 8 - TRACY AND HEPBURN KISS
Make flash cards, and the two of you re-enact the following kissing scene from WOMAN OF THE YEAR:
(1942): (Reclining face to face on a couch, woman on top.)
SAM: Something I've got to get off my chest.
TESS: I'm too heavy?
SAM: I love you.
TESS: Me, too.
SAM: Positive.
TESS: That's nice. Even when I'm sober?
SAM: Even when you're brilliant. (The two of you kiss.)
- 9 - KISSES IN A BALLOON
Cut out small red tissue lips, and place them inside an opaque balloon filled with helium (any party store could do this for you) Tie the balloon to your love's chair at dinner. Desert is a shower of kisses delivered by a sharp pin.
- 10 - TOLL KISS
Next time you are driving your love somewhere, stop the car before crossing a bridge or going through a tunnel, and say the toll must be paid before you can go any further. Of course, the toll cost in one kiss.
- 11 - MORSE CODE KISS
If you know Morse code, great, If not, this is a great way to learn. Find a Morse Code chart. Using long and short kisses, spell out a message to your love and have him or her try to decipher them.
- 12 - KISSING METER KISSES
We have parking meters, so why not kissing meters? Turn a box into your own kissing meter and wear it around your neck. Give your love kissing tokens to start your kissing meter. Have an "expired" sign appear when you need another kiss.
- 13 - AUDIO STIMULATION
Make a cassette of kissing noises and place in your love's cassette player (walkman, car or home) with a note attached.
- 14 - BREAKFAST IN BED KISS
Slip out of bed early and prepare a special "Kissing" breakfast to serve to your love in bed. Pick foods that you can easily pick up and feed to your love. Kiss between bites!
- 15 - STAIRWELL KISS
This kiss is to be done at a party or at a gathering with your love. Steal away to a private location like behind a door or tree, or on the stairwell and passionately kiss each other. The risk of being discovered in the act is the key element.
- 16 - SCUBA KISSING
Wearing a diving mask and fins, simulate swimming underwater. Snorkel across the room to your love and kiss him or her.
If you answered April 15, you’re way off.
Even the IRS’ strangle hold on your wallet is no match for the grip Cupid has on lovers who want to please and delight their significant others.
If the approaching holiday has you sweating, you’re not alone. Many surveys show lovers can be out touch with what the loves of their lives really want for Valentine’s Day.
And the consequences of a bad Valentine’s Day gift aren’t pretty. According to one survey, as many as six million people have broken up with someone on Valentine’s Day.
A survey conducted by Bill Me Later Inc. and Ipsos Insight reveals that men really are from Mars when it comes to knowing what their sweethearts want for Valentine’s Day.
More than 90 percent of the men polled said they would be giving a hug as part of their gift. Only 13 percent of the female respondents, however, said they wanted a hug. Twenty-two percent of men who intend to give gifts said they would give lingerie, but only 2 percent of the women surveyed want lingerie.
Flowers, the most coveted gift on the female list of desirable Valentine’s Day gifts, ranked second on the male gift-giving list. However, jewelry, which was the women’s second pick for most desired gift, only rated fifth on the men’s list.
Does all of this discord between men and women’s visions of the perfect Valentine’s Day cause any relationship damage?
It certainly does.
The difference in gender perception is probably a more significant problem than people imagine, according to Carolyn Kaufman, a clinical psychologist and an assistant professor at Columbus State Community College in Ohio.
The commercial expectations for Valentine’s Day are focused on women's ideals of love, and not men's.
“That means men are forced to do things that don't say love to them,” she said. “In fact, for men, (these gifts) may just (be) cheesy."
But there are some who don’t feel the pressure at all. Take Dan Parks, president and creative director of Corporate Planners Unlimited Inc.
He prepares a gift and card for both his wife and daughter for each day in the month of February. Parks starts collecting cards in June or July so he’s got everything in place when February rolls around.
Gathering 56 cards and 56 gifts may seem like a Herculean effort, but not to Parks. For him, “It is truly a labor of love,” he said.
Kaufman said expressions of love are clearly in the eyes of the beholder. Spending time together, taking walks, kissing, candle-lit dinners, hugging, holding hands, and making love are all signs of love to men.
Women, on the other hand, are much more focused on seeing love in the tokens associated with Valentine's Day, like flowers and surprise gifts.
A conflict develops between how a man wants to express his affection, and how he's being told to express it. Kaufman cautioned that, “If he does what he's expected to do, it may feel fake or forced to either or both partners. And that's not romantic.”
If you want to avoid feeling let down this Valentine’s Day, try following these three tips from Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman, psychologist and author of “Dating From The Inside-Out: Using The Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart:”
1. If there is something special you’d like to do, be proactive and suggest it. Expecting him to read your mind is a set up for both of you.
2. Think of all the ways your partner is good to you. This should balance out your expectations around this one particular holiday.
3. Think of the legend of St. Valentine and the real meaning of Valentine’s Day. One legend says Valentine was a priest who served during the 3rd Century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II outlawed marriage for young single men, Valentine continued to perform marriages in secret and was put to death. In another legend, Valentine actually sent the first “Valentine” after he fell in love with a girl while in prison. It is believed he signed the note, “From your Valentine.” St. Valentine’s focus was on his love for others, not on himself, according to Kouffman. So, choose to make this holiday romantic for your partner, instead of thinking about what should be done for you. This should take the pressure off.
Sherman added that it’s not the specific expectations around Valentine’s Day that matter, it’s feeling appreciated. “Let the other person know they matter to you in some way. And, also remember, one day does not signify the love given to you over the lifetime of your relationship.” under 60 points = not too sexy
from 61-300 points = pretty sexxy
over 301-599 points = VERY sexxxxy!!!
beyond 600 = beyond verry verry verry sexy!!!!
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C=9
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H=10
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Mr. and Mrs. Doe come before the judge for their divorce hearing.
The judge says, "What are the grounds?"
Mrs. Doe says, "Cruel and inhuman punishment. He tied me to the bed, forced me to sing Jingle Bells while he pissed all over me."
The judge says, "My God, that's horrible."
She says, "Yeah. He knows how much I hate that song."
Amazing but true? How you get undressed reveals your personality...
1.) If you throw your clothes all over the place, you are a friendly, life-of-the-party type. You are free with your thoughts and opinions, not caring much about what others think of you. Your parents might think your room looks like a cyclone hit it? but it actually represents your happy, individualistic nature!
2.) If you remove each piece of clothing and put it away carefully, you are a serious person who likes her life to be very calm. You are comfortable with routine, and you believe that the best way to deal with life's problems is to prevent them in the first place.
3.) If you are a perfectionist, By nature you are quite shy. You are observant and you know more about some people than they think, just because because you've watched them. You are dependable and sometimes intense. You think carefully before making decisions. You go about your tasks methodically, with concentration. You know how to pay attention.
4.) If you take off the shirt, and ten minutes later get around to the pants, you are an extremely self-confident person. You are naturally bright and intellectual. You are also a deep thinker who loves to ask questions and ponder the meaning of things. You hate being rushed and you do not like to be hassled. Usually you like a lot of free time for yourself.
5.) If you get out of your clothes as quickly as possible, you are concerned about others and what they expect from you, but you're worried about your own needs. You are family-oriented, and stay extremely busy. You often feel stressed, but most of those heavy expectations come from your own head! Give yourself a break, you don't have to be perfect.
6.) If you take off your rings, earrings, necklace, watch, et cetera before anything else, you are a warm and sensitive person. You are considerate and thoughtful, and you give good advice to your friends. You are a natural born romantic.
7.) If you don't have an undressing routine and you never do it the same way twice, you are a very curious and interesting person. You enjoy a broad range of activities. You take risks and enjoy fun and adventure. You are very social.
Since the 1st time I took the bus, I always made sure that I had a bunch of quarters in my purse, to make it easier for me to pay $1.25 fare. But when I started to work again, I had to find an easier way for me to pay the $1.55 fare, and also make use of the other coins we have at home bec we use the quarters for laundry. So what I did was, I prepared exact amount and packed them individually and tagged them from Monday to Friday. Also, in case a coin falls off, then I have extra dies & nickels with tag on the paper saying which is 5 & 10 cents ( I get confused w/ these coins bec 5 cents is bigger than 10 cents). In that way it'll be easier & faster when paying the bus. I was actually thinking why don't other passengers try to straighten their $1 bill while waiting for the bus, so they don't make several attempts when putting their money in the box. Then they would look like dancing just bec they're getting off their balance while stood infront.
Now, I can already recognize 5 from 10 cents just by feeling its shape. Well, everyday is always a learning experience for me.
Like now, I have a new way of knowing if I'm near my stop just by looking at my watch. Bec normally buses stop at the time mentioned, then I alert myself that I'm about to get off. I would say, I am now enjoying taking the bus, unlike before, I was really scared & it takes me a lot of psychological conditioning. But now, well, I am indeed having fun.
Once upon a time, there lived a happy couple, with their 3 lovely triplet daughters; Jessica, Antoinette & Llana. The 3 daughters were brought up in a prim-and-proper fashion and when they reached 20, their parents thought it was time to get them married. So, the parents found them the most suitable " leng chais" ( handsome guys).
They got married and were preparing to set-off on their honeymoon. As "concerned" (more like "kay-poh") parents, they were curious about their daughters' first-night experience.So, before the daughters went on their respective honeymoons, mother told them......
" Your father and I want to know about your 1st night encounters and whether you were satisfied.Write a letter to us, but so as not to raise your husbands' curiosity... you all must use a code-name to describe your experiences".So, the excited daughters were off.
A week passed, they got the first letter. It was from Jessica.They opened the letter and found the word "Standard Chartered". They immediately took the newspaper and looked for the Standard Chartered advertisement.
"Ah! here it is!", the motto for Standard Chartered was...."Big, strong and friendly"
They were happy. A week later, they got another letter.This time it was from Antoinette. The content was simple. "Nescafe".So, again they took the neswpaper and looked for the Nescafe ad."Ah! here it is. "Nescafe: pleasure till the last drop".
Again, they were beamed with joy. Another week passed. A month passed. And another. There was still no letter from Llana.They became worried. Finally, the letter came. It was scribbled and could hardly be read, but managed to figure it out.
The code-name was "Philippine Airlines".Why Philippine Air Lines? Mom rushes to the nearest store and got a newspaper. She flipped the pages frantically."Ah! Here it is!" and read aloud.Before she could finish. Thump!!!...she fell off her chair.
The motto was.."7 times a week. 4 to 6 times a day. Non-stop."
To determine your personality, pick the gift you'd most like to receive this Valentine's Day:
Candy
Flowers
A sweet poem
Sex
Dinner/Dancing
Waffle iron
CANDY
It means that... You are a sweet person who enjoys traditional gifts and hopefully likes to share. OR You're a selfish chocoholic who values a sugar high over everything, even true love.
FLOWERS
It means that... You love the beauty of nature, the scent of flowers and appreciate this timeless romantic gesture. OR You get some twisted joy out of watching vegetation wither and die.
A SWEET POEM
It means that... You're a hopeless romantic, a cultured person who recognizes the power and beauty of the written word. OR You're used to cheap gifts and like to pass yourself off as a cultured person who recognizes the power and beauty of the written word.
SEX
It means that... You are a passionate soul, a free spirit who is not afraid to express your sexuality with another consenting adult and feel that the physical side of love can be meaningful and beautiful. OR You're a filthy degenerate who is no better than a rutting animal living solely for one carnal experience after another.
DINNER/DANCING It means that... You enjoy the company of that special someone and the romantic setting of fine cuisine and candlelight. OR You're easy to please and probably willing to sell your body for food and a few quick turns around the dance floor.
WAFFLE IRON
It means that... You're a practical person who believes in gifts that you can actually use. OR You have absolutely no idea of what gift-giving is all about and probably have some sort of deviant sexual fetish involving kitchen appliances. My 1st job was based in Long Beach (a live-in caregiver for 5 days). My travel would be, someone from the agency tries to pick me up from home & drop me off to work. And during my off, Black picks me up. So, I didn't have any problem with my ride.
But there was a time when noone could take me to work, so I had to take 2 bus transfers & a train. I checked from metro.net to get exact time for stops & transfers, then I started early planning to arrive workplace an hour earlier. During the 1st 2 rides, (bus to train-train to station), everything was smooth. But when I got off the train, trying to look for the next bus stop, I can't find it. So, I went to walk a few blocks hoping to see it somewhere, til I kept walking & walking til I reached Atlantic Ave, looks like an isolated area for me. I tried calling the people from the agency but they were not answering their cell. Called Black but he don't seem to have a signal. I kept on walking & I don't know where to stop. I am not seeing people around so I started crying while walking, stumping my foot (could you imagine how a lost child reacts?) I saw a cab coming, I was trying to stop ot but they wouldn't stop. So that made me cry more, feeling so helpless.
As I was continuously walking, (I don't know how far I walked, but pretty far bec I was already grasping my breathe), I found an old woman in an intersection & asked her how to get to Bixby Knolls (my destination), she replied, she don't know bec she used to drive. & I learned from her that u have to call the cab company for u to get a ride. I asked her the number, but she don't know. I found a waiting shed assuming that it was a bus stop, but it already took me almost an hour & still not seeing a bus coming. Still attempting to call the agency, when they answered, a bus suddenly came. Then, I got relieved. I was already thinking of going back but I don't even know how.
Getting lost in a country you are not familiar with is trully scary, but it's the only way for me to learn. As the saying goes, "Experience is the best teacher".
I remember when someone asks me where I live, they would right away be silenced after I tell them where. And there are a few who would say something behind my back & some who are brave enough will tell me to take extra care. I was not paying any attention to it at first. But I learned from Black that places here tells what racial enviroment you are in. Like where we stay right now, it's so called a Black community.
When I started my part-time job last week, I had to travel 16 miles therefore, that's an hour & a half travel by bus. But I only have to make 2 rides that's why I took the job. The day before I started, Black drove me to the place so I'll know exactly the path to take. No problem in going back because he picks me up, & we go home together. (now you know what I mean when I say that my Black is supportive?)
But there was a day that Black had a meeting to attend, so I had to take the bus going back. When I'm on the bus for long hours, I tend to notice everything that passes my sight. Also, I've got to pay attention to where I am going. First thing I've noticed, when I got to the 1st bus from work, that's in Monterey Park, passengers were mostly Asians or White. Now on the 2nd bus, I've noticed that passengers were predominantly Hispanics until we reached a portion of Huntington Park. Then one by one, Black people are starting to come in. When I started seeing Black men & women, then I knew I'm near home because I'm now in the hood.
Now, I found ways to alert me so I don't miss the stop. :)
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