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About a BlackmanI had a good childhood. I was raised by my Mother and can not remember anything about my Father. I had a Grandmother and Grandfather but they were not by blood. We were looking back in time very poor. But at the same time we were very rich because we had each other.
Mother was I suppose you could say very strict back then. It was when White people and Black people did not mix. I was to light to be cool with Black people and to dark to be cool with White people. Mother raised us to not know the difference in people and take them for who they were. It is the way you act that makes you who you are and not what race you are.
I was a pretty good kid but got into trouble the same as all other kids. Not real trouble but just the stuff every other kid does when growing up. I had 2 sisters , 1 older and 1 younger. I was a loner as far back as I can remember. I enjoyed playing by myself because I did not want to do girl things. I also when I got big enough enjoy going as far away from home as I could get. Going places I had never been, doing thing I had never done. It was a mistake giving me a bike because that really let me get away. Mother used to spank me when I would not come home when she wanted me to. I would go as far as I could and then come back and get my spanking. LOL, I never had the fear of far away places or being alone when I went.
I dropped out of school when I was maybe 15 or 16 because I was bored with it all. Seemed like they did not want to teach me new stuff but just learn how to be stupid. So, I ran the streets and learn a lot of stuff about how to break the law. Some of that comes in handy to this day. I mean how to read people and it gave me a survival thing in life. Along came the girls.
When I was about 17 I met this girl and fell in love. Of course you know what happened, she came to me 1 day and said we were going to have a baby. By that time I was just turn 18. I went into the Army and we got married. I grew up a lot during that time. I became 1 of the good guys. I just wanted a family and live a plain and simple life. You know, House, car, kids, job and live happy ever after. Did not happen that way.
I went to fight in Viet Nam when I was in the Army. I learned what death and destruction really was. I learn who and what I was. When I got back nothing was the same. To make it short, a kid and no wife. I finally got a job in the garment industry and that paid well. I started a business making patterns for the clothes you wear. Life began to be good to me again. I got married again. I did not learn the first time about doing that. No need to say it did not last long. Back to working and enjoying being single with money. Time went by and I met someone else and there I go. I got married again. This time it lasted for 13 years or so. But it did not last. I know you want to know what and why I got married and why it did not last. Simple. The women I picked to married were not into it for life.
Here, in the USA people do not really stay married for life. It is so easy to get married and divorced that it seems more like having a girl friend and breaking up. I am an old fashion kind of guy. A woman is responsible to man and man is responsible to GOD. Man is the head of the house and most women today do not agree with that. I do not party a lot, run the streets, try to pick up every woman I can find. I enjoy the simple pleasure of home and family life.
That brings us here and now. What Pinays say is all true. And no we did not just start sleeping together because I am not that easy. Now, does that sound funny or what? It turned out that we believe in and like and dislike a lot of the same things. Now, we are down to the real deal. She has had some not so good times in her past and you read some of mine. We both want to be married and live that simple home and family life. We have decided that we will marry and make it last a life time. Not for sex or anything like that. We want to share the good and bad times, Go thru the ups and downs together. We understand the it is not money that makes you rich but love and joining your life with someone that is the tresure that life has to offer.
Let me stop her because I am beginning to sound mushy.
Blackman A Glimpse of the PastLet me share a bit about myself... People I've met used to tell me that I'm no typical Pinay, I've more the traits & outlook of a Chinese woman most esp when it comes to business. But since I was brought up in a conservative way where we always observe Filipino traditions, so that makes me adopt some attitudes of a Pinay.
Life was a routine for me. Always focused on work, home & church, never had time for fun. I don't find it boring bec I was just a simple type of individual, able to have what I want & earns much more than what I need. Friends would add my profile to some websites trying to find me a match without me knowing, then later end-up receiving lots of alerts. Really not a computer techy & chat craze.
When I got my visa, everyone was surprised & said that I am so blessed to have gotten a 10 yrs multiple entry Religious visa. My friends in the Phils would plead me to find someone once I get stateside but I just smile and ignored them, not my interest I said. It was kinda hard for me to leave my country bec I know how difficult life is in the US, & didn't want to leave things I already have & just the thought of starting something new makes me stop & think. Well, it's pretty obvious that almost everyone would do crazy things just to be here. But me, all I planned for my US trip was to attend church inauguration last Sept & do some part time job to compensate my expenses until my return.
During my week stay with a relative, life for me was difficult and sad, I felt pressured in some ways & deprived at times, made me think of going back to the Phils soon. There were some people I met online that took me out to break the ice. And one was this Black man.
We talked on a Fri night. Then I was surprised that he right away invited me to the fair the next day. I went out for few hours that night that's why when I got back to my brother's apt, they didn't let me in. So I stayed outside the apt the whole night til 8am. The next day, I was all set 15mins before my pick up time which was supposed to be at 10am but to my dismay, few mins after 10, I'm still not seeing a Black man, I was upset & decided to get undress & just go back to sleep. But before doing such, I wanted him to know how upset I easily become for people who don't respect other people's time & not care seeing him, besides I've got nothing to loose. But when he got to explain, we decided to push thru with the plan, & later realized that it was my ignorance that made me not hear him leave a message at the apt door.
At the fair, I've seen almost the same things we see in the Phils, nothing's new aside from some nice landscaping & bunch of food per order. All I enjoyed was his company bec he does all the talking, shares a lot of things about American culture (though I've learned these from school & at work) but it's different when you see & hear it in person. He also shared some of the things he knows about Asians. And when we got back to how we met online, I felt embarrassed realizing what a bootycall was, wanted to call my gay friend and curse em for putting my profile in such kind of website.
We shared lots of insights & were getting along well (I think) til it turned dark. Now, I started to think about my present situation and worried that I might not be able to get in again & how would I be able to attend church the next day. Unconsciously, I started sharing this with the Black man. And to my surprise, without thinking twice, he right away offered me to stay at his place. Things happened just too fast, he picked me up the next day, dropped me off to church, and then, we stayed together in one roof. (Oh I know what you're thinking) No, Sorry but I'm not that easy... Of course, dalagang Pilipina yata ako. |
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