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Hard DecisionMy Mother is 96 years old now. She is in the hospital and doing poorly. The doctors are asking should they hook her up to machines to keep her alive. Something to think about on the serious side. Would it be selfish to say yes do that or would it not? She has had a long productive life and should she suffer because we cannot let her go? She does not hear well, cannot see well and cannot move around on her own. Most of the time she cannot talk to us and not sure if she knows if we are there. Here is a peom she wrote for us to express her feelings. Weep Not at My Passing
Weep not at my passing, Just remember that I have lived; And in my brief span of life, I have taken and had to give
Love, friendship and understanding, Time, energy and hope, Humor, wisdom and integrity, Whatever the emotional scope.
I brought life into the world Through the miracle of procreation; Offspring to take up the cross After I have reached my destination.
Bruised by pain and suffering, Comforted by those who spoke, Accepting what could not be changed, Trying hard to adjust and cope.
But weep not at my passing, A far richer life has come, And rest for my weary soul In my eternal home.
I think she loves us very much and has tried to prepare us for this time. I have come to terms, with Mother's help, to face the future after she has pass on to that better place. She has made a difference in this world and I am sure there are a lot of people that would say that is true. She will never really be gone because she is always with us and will always watch over us. I will have to get back to you on this. Made in JapanThere was a Japanese man who went to America for sightseeing.
On the last day, he hailed a cab and told the driver to drive to the airport.
During the journey, a Honda drove past the taxi. Thereupon, the man leaned out of the window excitedly and yelled, "Honda, very fast! Made in Japan!"
After a while, a Toyota sped past the taxi. Again, the Japanese man leaned out of the window and yelled, "Toyota, very fast! Made in Japan!"
And then a Mitsubishi sped past the taxi. For the third time, the Japanese leaned out of the window and yelled, "Mitsubishi, very fast! Made in Japan!"
The driver was a little angry, but he kept quiet. And this went on for quite a number of cars. Finally, the taxi came to the airport.
The fare was US$300. The Japanese exclaimed, "Wah... so expensive!"
There upon, the driver yelled back, "Meter, very fast! Made in Japan!" What we have in ChristA life that can never die;
A glory that can never be clouded;
A beauty that can never be marred;
A love that can never be fathomed;
A wisdom that can never be baffled;
A joy that can never be diminished;
A light that can never be darkened;
A purity that can never be defiled;
A rest that can never be disturbed;
A blessing that can never be counted;
A peace that can never be understood;
A hope that can never be disappointed;
A strength that can never be enfeebled;
A happiness that can never be interrupted;
A righteousness that can never be tarnished;
A salvation that can never be equaled by worldly wealth;
Resources that can never be exhausted.
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Inspirational Quotation:
"You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give."
A Blessed Lenten !! Food for ThoughtA sliced Carrot looks like the human eye The pupil, iris and radiating lines look
just like the human eye...and YES science now shows that carrots greatly
enhance blood flow to and function of the eyes.
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A Tomato has four chambers and is red. The heart is red and has four chambers. All of the research shows tomatoes are indeed pure heart and blood food.
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Grapes hang in a cluster that has the shape of the heart. Each grape looks like a
blood cell and all of the research today shows that grapes are also profound
heart and blood vitalizing food.
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A Walnut looks like a little brain, a left and right hemisphere, upper cerebrums and
lower cerebellums. Even the wrinkles or folds are on the nut just like the
neo-cortex. We now know that walnuts help develop over 3 dozen
neuron-transmitters for brain function.
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Kidney Beans actually heal and help maintain kidney function and
yes, they look exactly like the human kidneys.
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Celery, Bok Choy, Rhubarb and more look just like bones. These foods specifically
target bone strength. Bones are 23% sodium and these foods are 23% sodium.
If you don't have enough sodium in your diet the body pulls it from the
bones, making them weak. These foods replenish the skeletal needs of the
body.
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Eggplant, Avocados and Pears target the health and function of the womb and cervix of the female - they look just like these organs. Today's research shows that
when a woman eats 1 avocado a week, it balances hormones, sheds unwanted
birth weight and prevents cerv ic al cancers. And how profound is this? ....
It takes exactly 9 months to grow an avocado from blossom to ripened fruit.
There are over 14,000 photolytic chemica l cons tituents of nutrition in
each one of these foods (modern science has only studied and named about 141
of them).
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Figs are full of seeds and hang in twos when they grow. Figs increase the motility of male sperm and increase the numbers of Sperm as well to overcome male sterility.
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Sweet Potatoes look like the pancreas and actually balance the glycemic index of
diabetics.
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Olives assist the health and function of the ovaries
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Grapefruits, Oranges, and Other Citrus fruits look just like the
mammary glands of the female and actually assist the health of the breasts and the movement of lymph in and out of the breasts.
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Onions look like body cells. Today's research shows that onions help
clear waste materials from all of the body cells They even produce tears
which wash the epithelial layers of the eyes.
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Inspirational Quotation:
"The gifts showing forth our human love bespeak the gif from God above in Jesus."
Bible Verse: 1 John 3:17
"But if a man has this world's goods, and sees that his brother is in need, and keeps his heart shut against his brother, how is it possible for the love of God to be in him?" What is Domestic Violence?FACTS: Every year in the United States there are over 3 million incidents of domestic violence. That means that every nine seconds someone is beaten by their domestic partner. Every year over 4000 victims of domestic violence are killed. 95% of domestic violence victims are women. Domestic violence causes more injuries to women in the USA between the ages of 15 and 44 than car accidents, muggings, and rape combined.
Domestic Violence can take different forms, but its goal is always the same: Batterers want to control their domestic partners through fear. They do this by regularly abusing them physically, sexually, psychologically and economically.
Here are some of the forms domestic violence can take:
PHYSICAL ABUSE Hitting, Slapping, Kicking, Choking, Pushing, Punching, Beating.
VERBAL ABUSE Constant criticism, Making humiliating remarks, Not responding to what the victim is saying, Mocking, Name-calling, Yelling, Swearing, Interrupting, Changing the subject.
SEXUAL ABUSE Forcing sex on an unwilling partner, Demanding sexual acts that the victim does not want to perform, Degrading treatment.
ISOLATION Making it hard for the victim to see friends and relatives, Reading mail, Taking the victim's car keys.
COERCION Making the victim feel guilty, Pushing the victim into decisions, Sulking, Manipulating children and other family members, Always insisting on being right, Making up impossible "rules" and punishing the victim for breaking them.
HARASSMENT Following or stalking, Embarrassing the victim in public.
ECONOMIC CONTROL Not paying bills, Refusing to give the victim money, Not letting the victim work, Interfering with the victim's job, Refusing to work and support the family.
ABUSING TRUST Lying, Breaking promises, Withholding important information, Being unfaithful, Not sharing domestic responsibilities.
THREATS AND INTIMIDATION Threatening to harm the victim, the children, family members and pets, Using physical size to intimidate, Shouting, Keeping weapons and threatening to use them.
EMOTIONAL WITHHOLDING Not expressing feelings, Not giving compliments, Not paying attention, Not respecting the victim's feelings, rights and opinions, Not taking the victim's concern seriously.
DESTRUCTION OF PROPERTY Destroying furniture, Punching walls, Throwing things, Breaking dishes.
SELF DESTRUCTTIVE BEHAVIOR Abusing drugs or alcohol, Threatening self-harm or suicide, Driving recklessly, Deliberately doing things that will cause trouble. HOW DO GOD AND CHRIST VIEW WOMEN?
How can we have a complete picture of how God views women? One way is to examine the attitude and conduct of Jesus Christ, who is "the image of the invisible God" and who reflects perfectly God's view of matters. (Colossians 1;15) The dealings Jesus had with the women of his day show that God and Jesus respect women and that they certainly do not approve of the oppressive treatment that is so common in many lands today.
Consider for example, the occasion when Jesus spoke to a woman at a well, A woman of Samaria came to draw water". Jesus said to her: "Give me a drink", Jesus was willing to talk to a Samaritan woman in public, even though most Jews had no dealings with Samaritans. Jesus, however, treated women with respect and consideration and was neither racially prejudiced nor gender prejudiced. On the contrary, it was to the Samaritan woman that Jesus for the first time plainly identified himself as the Messiah (John 4:7-9, 25, 26)
On another occasion Jesus was approached by a woman who for 12 year had been suffering from an embarrassing and deliberating flow of blood. When she touched him, she was instantly healed. "Jesus turned around and noticing her said: Take courage daughter, your faith has made you well." (Matthew 9:22) After Jesus was resurrected, his first appearance was to Mary Magdalene and another of his disciples, whom the Bible refers to as "the other Marry". Jesus could have appeared first to Peter, John, or one of the other male disciples. Instead, he dignified women by allowing them to be the first eyewitnesses of his resurrection. Jesus said to the women: "Go, report to my brothers" (Matthew 28:1, 5-10). Jesus was certainly not affected by the prejudices common to Jews of his day, according to which women could not serve as legal witnesses.
So, far from being biased against women or condoning chauvinistic attitudes toward them in any way, Jesus showed that he respected and appreciated women. Violence against them was completely contrary too what Jesus taught, and his attitude, we can be sure, was a perfect reflection of the way his Father sees things.
God's concern for the welfare of women is evident from the several instances in which he acted in behalf of his female worshippers. Twice he intervened to protect Abraham's wife, Sarah (Genesis 12:14-20). God showed favor to Jacob's less-loved wife, Leah by opening her womb, so that she bore a son (Genesis 29:31-32). He also answered Hannah's fervent prayer (1Samuel 1:10-20) God enabled prophet Elisha to multiply her supply of oil so that she could pay her debt and still have sufficient for her family (Exodus 22:32-23; 2 Kings 4:1-7)
The prophets repeatedly condemned the exploitation of women or the use of violence against them. The rich and powerful in Israel were condemned because they had evicted women from their homes and mistreated children (Micah 2:9). The God of justice sees and condemns as evil such suffering caused to women and their children.
Women are not to be oppressed victims of men who take advantage of them, mistreat them, or subject them to abuse of any kind. Instead, the married woman is to be the happy and accomplished "complement" of her husband. (Genesis 2:18) When writing to Christian husbands about how they should treat their wives, Peter urged husbands to imitate the attitudes of Jesus Christ. "You husband, continue assigning them honor (1 Peter 3:7). Assigning honor to a person implies that one VALUES and RESPECTs such a one highly. Thus, the man who honors his wife does not humiliate her, downgrade her, or treat her violently. Rather, he demonstrates by his words and his deeds in public and in private that he cherishes and loves her. Honoring one's wife certainly contributes to happiness in a marriage. Since mankind's fall into imperfection, women in many cultures have been treated dishonorably. They have been physically, mentally and sexually abused. But that is not the treatment God intended for them. The Bible record clearly shows no matter what cultural views may prevail, all women should be treated with honor and respect. It is their God-given due. VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN (A Global Problem)November 25 is the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women. This day was recognized by the General Assembly of the United Nations in 1999 with a view to raising public awareness of violations of the rights of women.
In many cultures women are viewd and treated a inferior or as second class citizens. Prejudices against them are deep-rooted. Gender-based violence in all its forms is an ongoing problem, even in the so-called developed world. According to former UN Secretary General Kofi Annan, "violence against women is global in reach, and takes place in all societies and cultures. It affects women no matter what their race, ethnicity, social origin, birth or other status may be".
Statistics issued by a victimology institution in Holland indicate that 23% of women in one South American country, or abut 1 in 4, suffer some form of domesti violence. Likewise, the Council of Europe estimates that 1 in 4 European women suffers domestic violence during her lifetime. According to the Birtish Home Office, in England and Wales in one recent year, an average of two women each week were killed by current or former partners. Amnesty International describes violence against women and girls as today's "most pervasive human rights challenge".
Do the statistics mentioned above reflect God's attitude toward women? What Does Headship in Marriage Really Mean?
In many lands wedding ceremonies traditionally include the exchanging of vows in which the bride promises to obey her husband. Still, many women chafe at the idea of male headship in marriage. Consider what the Bible teaches about this topic. You will find that its position is balanced and practical.
The Bible's basic description of headship is, "Let wives be in subjection to their husbands as to the Lord, because a husband is head of his wife as Christ also is head of the church" Ephesians 5:22-24. In fact, as the church is in subjection to Christ, so let wives also be to their husbands in everything. "As the head of his wife, the husband is to take the lead in the family, with the wife following his lead and respecting his headship" Ephesians 5:33.
A husband's authority is limited by his own subjection to God and Christ. He is not empowered to direct his wife to break God's laws and compromise her own Bible-trained conscience. Within these limitations, however, God has assigned him the responsibility of making important decisions for the family. Romans 7:2 ; 1 Corinthians 11:3
The Bible commands the husband to exercise his headship unselfishly, putting his wife's benefit ahead of his own. Ephesians 5:25, "Husbands, continue loving your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and delivered up himself for it". A husband who follows Christ's supreme example of love rejects a self-centered exercise of headship.
Further, the Bible instructs a man to dwell with his wife "according to knowledge", 1 Peter 3:7. This involves more than a mere awareness of the physical and emotional differences between man and women. He should gain an understanding of his wife's needs.
Does a wife's subjection require her to be completely passive? Consider Sarah, cited in the Bible as an example of obedience to her husband, Abraham. 1 Peter 3:5-6, She subjected herself to him in matters large and small, from leaving a comfortable home for a nomadic life in tents to preparing a meal on short notice. Genesis 12:5-9, In Connection with a serious matter, however, she repeatedly expressed view contrary to Abraham's. This occurred when she wanted him to dismiss his concubine, Hagar, and his firstborn son, Ishmael, from the household. Instead of reproving Sarah, God told Abraham to listen to her voice. Meanwhile, Sarah continued to subject herself to Abraham by waiting for him to act instead of trying to drive out Hagar and Ishmael herself, Genesis 21:8-14.
Sarah's example shows that rather than merely living in her husband's shadow, the wife is to be her husband's partner, holding a place of honor, Malachi 2:14. As his partner, she provides valuable input concerning family decisions and is given a measure of authority in the family, often managing many household and even some financial matters. Of course, as the head of the family the husband is responsible for making final decisions, Proverbs 31:10-31 ; Timothy 5:14.
God created man and woman, and He created marriage as a sacred union between them, Genesis 2:18-24. He also specified roles for husband and wife that will bring them the greatest joy, Deuteronomy 24:5 ; Proverbs 5:18.
As the originator of marriage, God has both the right and ability to set standards for the marital arrangement. Marriage mates who fulfill their respective roles and follow God's headship arrangement, not just for its practicality but also out of respect for his divine authority, receive his favor and support. Money doesn't buy happinessMoney doesn't buy happiness, and now there's a study to prove it. Australian researchers found that people in well-off Sydney, are among the most miserable in the country, while those in some of the poorest areas, are such more satisfied with their lives.
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"Only at very, very high levels does money actually have any impact to act as a buffer," said Deakin University researcher Liz Eckerman.
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"Money doesn't actually buy happiness and that's what was shown very clearly for the nearly 23,000 people we've interviewed so far," she told ABC radio.
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The findings, collated since 2001, show that while there are no extremes of well-being in Australia, the happiest areas had a lower population, more people aged 55 or over, more women, more married people and less income inequality.
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The survey assessed a person's satisfaction with their standard of living, health, relationships, life achievement, safety, community connection and future security.
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Robert Cummins, a professor of psychology at Deakin who compiled the survey's scorecard, put the difference down to the higher cost of housing and high population density in cities.
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Of the 150 national electorates surveyed, one of the nation's poorest, Wide Bay in rural Queensland, was among the happiest.
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Inspirational Quotation:
"A man true wealth is the good things he does to God and to his fellowmen."
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Bible Verse: 1 Corinthians 9:11
"If we have planted the spiritual seed that has been of benefit to you, is it too much if we receive part of the harvest from your earthly goods?"
Advices by Famous MOMsThroughout the centuries, mothers have been giving their children plenty of good advice and notable quotes. Here's just a small sampling:
COLUMBUS' MOTHER: "I don't care what you've discovered, you still could have written!"
MICHELANGELO'S MOTHER: "Can't you paint on walls like other children? Do you have any idea how hard it is to get that stuff off the ceiling?"
NAPOLEON'S MOTHER: "All right, if you aren't hiding your report card inside your jacket, take your hand out of there and show me."
ABRAHAM LINCOLN'S MOTHER: "Again with the stovepipe hat? Can't you just wear a baseball cap like the other kids?"
MARY'S MOTHER: "I'm not upset that your lamb followed you to school, but I would like to know how he got a better grade than you."
ALBERT EINSTEIN'S MOTHER: "But it's your senior picture. Can't you do something about your hair? Styling gel, mousse, something...?"
GEORGE WASHINGTON'S MOTHER: "The next time I catch you throwing money across the Potomac, you can kiss your allowance good-bye!"
THOMAS EDISON'S MOTHER: "Of course I'm proud that you invented the electric light bulb. Now turn it off and get to bed!"
PAUL REVERE'S MOTHER: "I don't care where you think you have to go, young man, midnight is past your curfew."
MARY, MARY, QUITE CONTRARY'S MOTHER: "I don't mind you having a garden, Mary, but does it have to be growing under your bed?"
HUMPTY DUMPTY'S MOTHER: "Humpty, If I've told you once, I've told you a hundred times not to sit on that wall. But would you listen to me? Noooo!"
BARNEY'S MOTHER: "I realize strained plums are your favorite, Barney, but you're starting to look a little purple."
BATMAN'S MOTHER: "It's a nice car, Bruce, but do you realize how much the insurance is going to be?"
GOLDILOCKS' MOTHER: "I've got a bill here for a busted chair from the Bear family. You know anything about this, Goldie?"
LITTLE MISS MUFFET'S MOTHER: "Well, all I've got to say is if you don't get off your tuffet and start cleaning your room, there'll be a lot more spiders around here!"
JONAH'S MOTHER: "That's a nice story, but now tell me where you've really been for the last three days."
SUPERMAN'S MOTHER: "Clark, your father and I have discussed it, and we've decided you can have your own telephone line. Now will you quit spending so much time in all those phone booths?"
MONA LISA'S MOTHER: "After all that money your father and I spent on braces, that's the biggest smile you can give us?" Beef Stew 2 lbs chunk beef
carrots
2 celery stalks
2 potatoes (peeled and quartered)
1 can green peas
1. Lightly flour meat. Brown in 3 tbsp oil.
2.Add 3 cups water and beef stew seasoning. Blend well.
3.Bring to boil. Cover and reduce heat. Simmer until tender.
4. Add potatoes, carrots, celery. Add to stew.
Cover and simmer until vegetables are tender, stirring occassionally.
5. Add 1 can of green peas the last 5mins of cooking time.
6. Add 2 tsp of salt if desired.
Pot Roast ! can Campbell condensed Cream of Mushroom
1 pouch (2oz) dry onion soup & recipe mix
6 small red potatoes, halved
6 medium carrots, cut into 2pcs
3-3 1/2 boneless beef bottom round roast or chuck pot roast
1. Stir soup, onion soup.
2. Mix potatoes and carrots in 4 1/2qt slow cooker.
3. Add beef and turn to coat.
4. Cover and cook on low 8-9hr or until beef if fork tender.
5. Or on high 4-5hr. A Life changing storyI just had to share this story with you. Two businessmen attend the funeral of a mutual One man says to the other, "How much did he The other responds, "He left it all." Everyone leaves it all. And nobody on their death We all know in the depths of our
A nice storyThere once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. WHEN YOU SAY THINGS IN ANGER, THEY LEAVE A SCAR JUST LIKE THIS ONE. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, THE WOUND IS STILL THERE. "
A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Top 10 relationship wreckersWhenever you break up with someone, it’s normal to begin questioning behavior; you may wonder, for example, whether there were things that you could have done to avoid the split — or if there were ways in which you might have hastened its arrival. If your current relationship is on the rocks, here are 10 things that might be at the root of your problems:10. Looks that kill 9. Someone else… 8. Lack of quality time 7. Distance 6. Goodbye to romance 5. "I want your sex" 4. Jealousy 3. Communication breakdown 2. Once a cheater, always a… 1. Noise LA County Fair experienceBlack and I went to the fair on the first day, Sept 5. Michelle, Black's close female friend went with us and Ken, Black's male close friend from work met us there.
Admission was only $1, that's why everyone went to take advantage of the dollar day promo. Traffic started to be very bad the moment you get off the freeway until you reach the fair grounds. Most of the things you see there are the same things you see every year. But being with Black's closest friends is what makes the day worth remembering. Michelle is cool, you can talk anything and everything under the sun and not feeling any intimidation from her. Though it was my first time to be with Michelle a little bit longer, (I see her only when we go to her house and fix something on her computer, and during Black's birthday, but we didn't have much of a conversation) I know she is sincere. By the way, her birthday was Sept 7, so it is some sort of a blowout for her too. Ken on the other hand, is funny. Black, me and Ken had been together in several occassions, and Ken is consistent with how he is. He's a type of guy who always try to find ways to break the ice. He could just make something out of nothing. I would say, both of them are cool. Trully the kind of friends to keep. Black and I, went back to the fair the next sunday, Sept 7. It was less than a day to make it a year since our first date. Last year, we were not able to see much because I got tired right away due to heat. But this time, we were able to see more. We went to all the exhibits, and this time, made sure we have seen everything we wanted to see. Funny because Black would always tell me that a lot of things happened in his life for the first time since he met me. One will be, when we rode the sky ride. He was feeling icky about the ride, but he let me do it. And the experience of having friends go with him to the fair, his family and some friends come to the house more often than they do before, and a lot more. The only thing I would say to him is that, you are getting older that's why a lot of things are changing that is out of your control. And everyone always deserves a first time. Well, that weekend was a lot of great fun and experience. But for me, what makes it more memorable is because it has already been a year since Black and I fell for each other. WHEN LIZARD CAN, WHY CAN'T YOU?This is a true story that happened in Japan... In order to renovate the house, someone in Japan Breaks open the wall. Japanese houses normally have a hollow space between the wooden walls. When tearing down the walls, he found that there was a lizard stuck there because a nail from outside hammered into one of its feet. He sees this, feels pity, and at the same time curious, as when he checked the nail, it was nailed 10 years ago when the house was first built. What happened? The lizard has survived in such position for 10 years! In a dark wall partition for 10 years without moving, it is impossible and mind boggling. Then he wondered how this lizard survived for 10 years! without moving a single step--since its foot was nailed! So he stopped his work and observed the lizard, what it has been doing, and what and how it has been eating. Later, not knowing from where it came, appears another lizard, with food in its mouth. Ahh! He was stunned and touched deeply. For the lizard that was stuck by nail, another lizard has been feeding it for the past 10 years... Such help! such a beautiful love! Such happened even with this tiny creature ... What can help do? It can do wonders! Help can do miracles! Imagine? it has been doing that untiringly for 10 long years, without giving up hope on its partner. Think, will u do that to your partner ? Think that will you do it to your Mom, Who brought you after a big struggle of NINE long months ? Or at least to your Dad, Friends , Coworkers, Brothers & and Sisters ? Imagine what a small creature can do that a creature blessed with a brilliant mind can't. I was touched when I heard this story and started wondering about relationships between family members, friends, coworkers, brothers, sisters. As information and communication technology advances, our access to information becomes faster and faster. But the distance between human beings . . . is it getting closer as well? TIME TO ACT...... SPREAD THE LOVE WITHIN.....SELFLESSLY woman vs womanHave you thought about the reasons what causes a woman's pain?
Well, there are a lot of them, but if you try to analyze well, the major reason is none other than also another woman.
Most women are basically envious, jealous, of what other women has. It may be a thing, a career, fame, money, man, husband, etc. Even best friends break their friendship or even relatives, because one wants to have what the other has. And if she don't get it, she'll go as far as she could to get it from her, no matter what it may cause them. What more if they don't know each other.
Most woman focuses on the thinks they don't have that other woman has, and which of course makes them unhappy. I wonder why don't they just count the things that they have and find happiness from it so they would have a peaceful and contented heart. I know for some, they take this as something challlenging. And when it comes to having a man, I have heard from many that they prefer married man but I don't know for what special reason.
I know everyone wants to be in love and to be loved. But I believe that you don't have to look for it, but instead, wait for God to give it to you. Just make sure you are sensitive to know His signs. Otherwise, you'll end up always with the wrong guy. And if so, it would not be the kind of happiness that you have wanted to have. And not only that, you also did not live a life on SIN, so there's peace in living.
Well for me, what matters is I know I am living the life according to God's will and I don't care if I don't have other good things in life that most people think are, because life is not just being here on earth. There is more to come. (Revelation 21)
A very nice storyA man woke up early in order to have his morning devotion (prayer) in the Lord's house (church). He got dressed, set on his way to the Lord's house. On his way to the church, the man fell and his clothes got dirty. He got up, brushed himself up, and headed home. At home, he changed his clothes, and was, again, on his way to the Lord's house. On his way to the church, he fell again and at the same spot! He, again, got up, brushed himself off and headed home. At home he, once again, changed his clothes and was on his way to the Lord's house. On his way to the church, he met a man holding a lamp. He asked the man of his identity and the man replied 'I saw you fall twice on your way to the church, so I brought a lamp so I can light your way. The first man thanked him profusely and the two went on their way to the church. Once at the church, the first man asked the man with the lamp to come in and pray with him. The second man refused. The first man asked him a couple more times and, again, the answer was the same. The first man asked him why he did not wish to come in and pray. The man replied, 'I am Satan'. The man was shocked at this reply. Satan went on to explain, 'I saw you on your way to the Church and it was I who made you fall. When you went home, cleaned yourself and went back on our way to the church, God forgave all of your sins. I made you fall a second time, and even that did not encourage you to stay home, but rather, you went back on your way to Church. Because of that, God forgave all the sins of the people of your household.. I was afraid if I made you fall one more time, then God will forgive the sins of the people of your village, so I made sure that you reached the house of God (Church) safely.' Do not put off the good you intended to do as you never know how much reward you might receive from the hardships you encounter while trying to achieve that good. For your righteousness can save your family and nation at large. Do this and see the victory of the Lord. Praise be to God in the highest. ChangesI heard from a lot of couples that the reason why they had problems with their marriages is because each one changes.
Man claims that woman is the first to change once they become comfortable with each other. But what man don't realize is that they are actually the ones who started to change that makes a woman to change too.
Why do I say this, let me set an example...
During the first months of the relationship, man tends to show the woman how much they care, how much they miss them when they are apart just for a couple of hours. Man would take care of everything that a woman needs even if they don't ask for it. Which of course, will make a woman fall tremendously in love for him.
Now, when a woman starts to show concern, care and trust to that man, then he would begin to change. They become the natural being as they were, where the woman on the other hand, have already fallen deeply in love with him. Well, there are exeptions to the rule. I know there are a lot of woman who don't mind ending the relationship and jumping from one man to another. These I don't think is a relationship with love.
Now for those woman who stays in the relationship, they are the ones stuck trying so hard to work back the relationship. While man is enjoying himself treating her differently; no longer sweet as they used to be, talks mean to her, gets into some sort of infidelity and other stuff which they thought woman don't know, no matter how hard they deny. And when woman tries to start a conversation to patch things up, man automatically becomes deffensive and call that move as nagging or whining. Therefore, things becomes worst, because man would not want to communicate.
We know that man was from Mars and woman was from Venus. There's no need to argue why woman talk and think differently from man.
What man don't understand is that woman has an instinct and it's always right, therefore, we don't speculate.
But because man would always want to project a macho image, they try to show women that they are always wrong, but what they don't know, is that since woman is trying to work the relationship, they just let the man think that way.
If only man stops being a chauvinist and treat a woman equal with love and full respect from day 1 til the present, just like how woman treats their man like a king, then both will live a peaceful and harmonious relationship forever.
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